كيف تتغلب على الإحباط ؟!


الأستاذ :- إسماعيل رفندى

إن الإحباط والفشل ممزجة في طينة الإنسان .. كما أن النجاح والتفوق من مقوماته .. لذا قارئي العزيز إذا أصابك التوتر ووصل بك إلى حد الإحباط في مهمة ما وشعرت بالعجز والاستسلام ، والرغبة في العزلة والتقوقع في همومك فمعنى ذلك أنك وقعت في شباك الإحباط


وعلينا عدم الاستسلام لهذا العدو المعيق للنجاح والتقدم ، والذي يعد من أخطر العوامل التي تصيب الإنسان في مجالات مختلفة في الحياة باستمرار .


لان للإحباط سلبيات قاتلة تظهر في كل ميدان يتعلق به من أعماق الروح والى مظاهر السلوك ... حتى يجعل من الشخص السوي والشاب القوي في سجن الهموم والأحزان يجعله عاجزا عن الإنجاز .. فالإحباط حالة نفسية وشعورية تهجم علي الذات حين يتعرض لضغوط في أي مجال من مجالات الحياة لا يستطيع المقاومة والمواجهة .. ولها مراحل أربع:-


ü التوتر فلا يعرف ماذا يفعل ..


ü التخطيط أي عدم السيطرة على الموقف ..


ü الاستسلام والشعور بالعجز ..


ü الإحباط والقعودعن كل المحاولات ..


وللتغلب على حالة الإحباط وعدم اليأس أمام مؤثرا ته يجب اتباع الوصايا التالية


1- اللجوء إلى مكان مريح وهادئ ..

2- خذ جلسة من جلسات الاسترخاء مع اتباع عملية التنفيس بأخذ شهيق عميق وزفير بطيء..

3- اتصل بصديق صادق لتفريغ الأسباب الرئيسية للإحباط ..

4- حسن الظن بالله والدعاء مع محاولة البكاء لأنه يريح الضمير ويسلى القلب ..

5- التسلية فى الأماكن المفتوحة والهواء الطلق والمناظر الجذابة‏ ويفضل مع صديق صالح..

6- تدريب الذات على الصبر والتحمل و استيعاب المشاكل ..

7- تخفيف الضغوط بالتأمل الواعي في أسبابها الرئيسية..والثقة بأن اكثر المشاكل لا تقع في دائرة المستحيل ..

8- الاشتغال بالهوايات المرغوبة لأنها تجعل الشخص اكثر اطمئنانا مثل -القراءة المفيدة والهادفة أو العمل في حديقة خضراء أو الاندماج في بعض البرامج الكومبيوترية .. أو محاولة العمل في مجالات أخرى أكثر تمكناً وإبداعا..

9- التفكير في مشاكل الآخرين .. ‏لتقوية الهمة وعظم المسؤولية .. ولا يجوز بأي حال من الأحوال أن يتنازل أمام شبح الإحباط ..

10- التفكير في تجارب الآخرين الصامدة .. وكيف قاوموا الظروف الصعبة والحالات الحرجة ‏.

11- الحفاظ على التوازن الذاتي:--

- من ساعات النوم ..

- نوعية الغذاء ..

- برامج الترفيه ..

- الاختلاط الواجب ..

12-تجديد الهمة والتحدث الجريء مع الذات --- يجب أن اصنع النجاح من الفشل .. وان اجعل الفشل تجربة وتمهيدا لمسيرة النجاح

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