أهلا بالغاليات وأهلا بمايا ... رد متميز يا مايا ...وفعلا التعدد موجود من قبل الإسلام فلم يبتدعه الإسلام بل قننه وحدده بشروط وواجبات وعن نفسى ما أقبل أبدا ...أبدا ... لا أستطيع ... لكن مين عارف الظروف .. الواحد بيتغير وتفكيره بيتغير وقلبه أيضا يتغير
اللهم يا مقلب القلوب ثيت قلبى على دينك ... بإنتظار باقى الغاليات
بنوتة وأزولة وأسومة أمونة ومروتنا الحلوة منورين الموضوع

سلام عليكم

موضوع رائع
والنقاش فيه جدا مهم لأنه بجد ساعات تنحطي في
موقف وماتعرفي تجاوبي
بس عمري ماانحطيت يمكن عشان ماليزيا دوله
مسلمه والي مش مسلمين عارفين كل شيء عن الأسلام

بس بجد خلتوني بدي اعرف كيف جاوب
خلوني اعصر مخاتي

>>>جاري عصر المخ
بس مش عارفه امتى ارجع خخخ


مسووكه يسلمو علي الموضوع واكيد
راح تابع حتي استفيد
:)

ﻳﻮﻭﻭﻩ ﻣﺎ ﻟﻘﻴﺘﻲ ﻏﻴﺮ ﺗﻌﺪﺩ ﺍﻟﺰﻭﺟﺎﺕ!!! ﻫﺎﺩ ﻭﺭﺷﻪ ﺑﺤﺎﻟﻪ ﺧﻠﻳﻪ ﻟﺒﻜﺮﻩ ﻳﺎ ﺍﻣﺎ ﺍﻟﺼﺒﺢ ﻳﺎ ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺎﻟﻠﻴﻞ ﺗﺎﺟﻴﺐ ﺳﻴﺠﺎﺭﻩ و ﻣﺎﺳﻪ ﻗﻬﻮﻩ ﻗﺪ ﺍﻟﺴﻂﻞ و ﺍﻣﺨﻤﺦ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ === ﻟﺎ ﺗﺼﺪﻗﻮﺍ ﻟﺎ ﺑﺸﺮﺏ ﻗﻬﻮﻩ و ﻟﺎ ﺳﺠﺎﻳﺮ ﺧﺨﺨﺨﺦ

مشاء الله مسوكة الموضوع رائع جدا
والموقف الثاني أروع

جزاكي الله خيرا على الطرح الجميل

ننتظر احلى وأروع المشاركات

بارك الله فيكن

موقف صعب مسوكة حتى بالعربي هههههههههههههه

والله هو موضوع صعب يا بنات فعلا ومهم وأنا إتحطيت بالموقف ده وكنت حاسة إنى محموقة علشان ديني وبنفس الوقت مش عارفة أرد كويس ومتلخبطة ... كانت موقف محرج جدا جدا بالنسبة لى ننتظر باقى المشاركات

شيمو نورتينا يا قمر يللا مخمخى إنت وموم وقولوا لنا
توتا خللى القهوة والسجاير على خخخخخخخخ

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم و الصلاه و السلام على افضل المرسلين.
اول شي بحب احيي مايا على ردها و لو انه ضعت بالرد بس لخصتي نقاط هامه و اسمحيلي اضيف فوق ردك و يمين اعيد من كلامك يلا معي نص ساعه يمكن اقل بسم الله ابدأ




Oh honey you picked a very controversial issue and sadly lots of people now adays abuse the fact that Allah gave them this right.


first tell me what the difference between a man who marries two or three women at the same time and the man that is married to one woman while he keeps a mistress on the side or even worse goes for a one night stand or even worse of the worst pays for services recieved (you know what i mean) . . . So pray tell what the difference between man A and B??????


lets assume both mem impregnanted one of their women what happens next???
A is married to the woman who got pregnant, his kid will know his daddy, his name will be on the birth certificate, the kid is not a bastard he has rights he can hold his head up high in society he has roots has a family he belongs to, he is secure financially and his mom holds no shame she can be proud she is pregnant with her husbands seed.


While Mr B has the option is abandoning the women who is a mistress, he has the option in denying the baby, lets get real he'll never accept that kid as his own really and then what the baby doesnt know his daddy the father name on birth certificate will be empty, he will be reminded everyday he is a bastard child, he will not belong anywhere he will feel abandoned he might be insecure and his future might be ruined his mom will be reminded till the day she dies that she bore a bastard child she will be expected by society to feel ashamed of herself sometimes will be pressured to abort the baby or give up to adoption then the baby will be abandoned twice not once.


You see both situations and how different they are???


As for why cant a woman marry more than one man mainly because how is she gona know who fathered what kid? Yes now we have dna testing but how about the two thousand years that passed? How did they know??? I once read an article talking about people who have more than one sexual partner, the male who has more than one female partner will show different sexual attitude towards each woman during the action his body action will be different, as for the female its the same action but did you know that the male sperm not only do they have the duty of fertelizing the egg but they are like soldiers who carry weapons they will fight any stranger sperm, like lets say after she finishes with partner 1 and goes to partner 2 the sperm from 1 will form a cirlce around the egg and fight with sperm 2 till one of them succeds in destroying the other then they go fertelize the egg. . . So you see we don't know if 1 or 2 won therefore we don't know the result is whose kid.
You see why she cant have two or three husbands. a man with 3wives with children we know who fathered them its the same man. but one woman with three husbands and one child who fathered him???? they would all deny the child and run away from the responsibility of raising it and taking care of it the child then is as good as a bastard child. . . How many cases do we see daily on tv on the news and talk shows were the woman doesnt know who fathered her kid and is guessing it must be this guy or that and then they show the men trying to get out of it and many denying it even if DNA says its their i see women say we dont care if the man pays child support we just want closure, Pah-lease!!!! So pathetic and humilating!!!!!!!!!!


When Islam came there was chaos in the society just like right now in some countries, men used to have more than one partner whether its in marriage or not, women used to have more than one partner too. . . So Islam said enough, take one partner and be loyal to it because marriage is not a joke, a marriage union is a holy union and it has rules that need be fullfilled and respected. . . Men and women who enter into a marriage aggrenment in Islam both have duties toward each other that shouldn't be ignored, but if they are ignored or can't be fullfiled like say the man can't be intimate with his wife then she can ask for divorce becuase she has a right to feel loved and wanted. .
Also if a woman can't perform her duties for a reason of illness of old age then you know Islam doesnt tell the man divorce your wife who is sick or old, but it tells him to take care of her but at the same time it will not be unfair and expect the man to ignore his urging feeling so came license number one in which he could take another wife.


On days of war thousands of men die what happens in society? There becomes an unbalance in the number of men and women, it might be double the number of triple the number of women to men the ratio is not 1:1 its either 2 or 3 or 4 or more to 1, what happens in chaotic societies???? An increase in extramarital affairs and increase in the number of prostitution which is not fair to the women.. . Islam came in freed them from this by allowing a man to have
an extra wife or two if he is able to do so
so there was license 2


If a man was rich and healthy and one woman is not enough for him and fulfilling his needs he can have a second wife just for his own pleasure just because HE CAN.


also if a woman in his family whom he can marry and has no one to take care of her like a husband or a son even if she was super old then he is allowed to marry her for the sole reason of taking care of her seeing her needs having someone o talk to so on also so she wont fall in
poverty.
So there came another license


If a wife is found to be unfirtile and cant have kids at all then he is allowed to marry another one to have kids. . Islam preaches us to have kids and raise them to be good muslim. . So there came yet another license




BUT there are rules to having a second or third or even fourth wife
first rule is to be fair. . . Even if the heart loved just one but i have two wives then i need to be fair to all my wives and treat them equally as much as i can and if i couldnt then its wrong to stay married to all of them and i should just keep one.


Also he needs be able to take care of not only emotionaky buy financially and equally of his wives and kids and provide each one of them her own house and clothing and food
So you see your information is wrong Islam doesnt say force them all in the smae house, no it wants each woman o have her own security in her own house and thise who force their wives to live together are disobeying Allah that is unless his wives will is to live together.
I hope i answered your questions, as to wether i will accept this on myself well let me put it this way,, i, am young and healthy and was able to have kids, i.m not ugly and a very good cook i keep my house clean and i keep good company when it comes to conversation, my husband has no excuse whatsoever to marry another and i know for sure he will not be ablte to be fair financially so he can never take another wife, but if he is i as a proud woman will not deny him this right but at the same time i will not accept tosuch situation. . So if he ever comes n tells me i dont love you anymore or i fell in love with another then he has my blessing to go and marry just give me my divorce first. . .I just cant accept to be a wife with a number on her forehead. . Thats just me and no one on earth can force me to be one.

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بارك الله فيكن و نفع بكن

رائع توتا انا نسيت موضوع ليش النساء لأ انا بعتبره اكثر سءال مضحك بالدنيا تخيلي كل وحده باربع جيزان والاربع جيزان باربع نسوان والاربع نسوان باربعه ثانيين والاولاد وعلاقتهم ببعض شو هي.؟ اعطينا سنت زمان والا طالعلك جيل كامل اخوان يعني بدنا كوكب ثاني تا نجوزهم ههههههههه

اني ويز
اعتقد الزوج غير مجبر يصرف لكل زوجه بيت توتا الموضوع عباره عن تراضي واتفاق واوضاع ماليه يعني افرضي عنده فيلا وكل وحده غرفتها الرسول كان موفر لكل زوجه غرفه مو تحت سقف واحد بس بحس السكن مو مشكلت المشاكل هاي اشي بيتراضوا عليه مدام فيه عدل اظن يفتصلوا افرضي ان معه وطفر والا خسر كلشي وماحد بده يتطلق هي الشغله كلها على بعض سوالف يعني اللي ما بيتخيل حاله بيقول مش معقول ولا يمكن احط حالي بالموقف بينما غري وغيرك بيرضى المهم الستره يعني مو شغلنا وين يسكنوا وهدول ثنتين اذا بده يغصبهن اكيد بده يقول البديل الكلاق هاي ظروفي او هاد عقلي فمنرجع محل ماحطنا الجمال عجبك اهلا وسهلا ماعجبك عندك دار اهلك اما وحده الها البيت كله ووحده تخدم عند الثانيه والا وحده بشغاله ووحده لأ هون بيصير عدم عدل ومنصير نقول لا مو على كيفه حرام عليه بس طالما هاي بخشه وهديك بخشه يفتصلوا ..........